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Mandy

Posts:45

10/26/2007 4:10 PM
My 15 month old daughter Lacey just started throwing temper tantrums constantly. She falls to the floor, cries and arches her back so as to make it hard to pick her up. I asked one of the teachers at Ladue Early Childhood about advice on how to handle the temper tantrums. She said not to try to console her. Let her had her fit and explain to her that it's time to do something else or transition to another activity. She advises to make sure she knows the parents are the boss. Pick her up and explain to her what we are doing. My other daughter is 7 and I had forgotten about all of the wonderful things we as parents must deal with.

Colleenr

Posts:66

10/30/2007 1:57 PM
Mandy, I agree with your advice. I have a 3 1/2 year old and a two year old (my one year old hasn't quite learned that stage yet), and I have found that the more power you give to the tantrum, the more tantrums you get. As hard as it is to keep in mind when your child is in the middle of a meltdown, we should remember that the tantrum is just the child's way of asserting herself and learning how to communicate. My 2 yr old can throw some doozies and I have found that sometimes telling her to have her meltdown elsewhere can diminish it considerably. Don't you wish that you could throw your own tantrum though sometimes and get away with it?

brianna

Posts:4

12/10/2007 6:31 AM
Thank goodness, our share of tantrums has been limited. I do believe that it is directly related to "ignoring" bad behavior. If a child gains attention from that behavior, that is how they will attempt to get your attention, in the store, at church, etc. My son is 5 and a half. We have been so blessed with him. We constantly get compliments on his behavior, manners, etc. One of the first things we did with him was to tell him that we could not hear him if he whined. We did this EVERY time he whined. "I'm sorry, mommy can't hear you when you whine....I just can' t hear you." He believed it in a literal sense. It worked great. He is still whines at times, but we tell him that we won't accept that behavior. Period. I think the main issue is to follow through, every time. Best wishes and God Bless! Nurse Brianna

martinmommy26 User is Offline

Posts:14

12/10/2007 10:20 AM
At 15 months old your child doesnt have the verbal skills to tell you what she wants. Her only power is a tantrum. This will pass. I would let her throw her fit. Then pick her up and talk to her. 15 month olds have no reasoning skills. So I really would pay attention to her needs and wants. You will learn her q's and talk about everything on her level. I have twins who are this age.. Our biggest fight is the carseat. One hates it so much. So she throws her fit. You are not alone. Sometimes babies will bite when they arnt being listened to. If that happens I would just say no. Cristi

steph

Posts:1

12/10/2007 10:31 PM
my 7year old gets mad when he plays games and when we try to tell him the right thing to do. he also get mad when someone borthers him. does anyone have any suggests

martinmommy26 User is Offline

Posts:14

12/12/2007 4:23 PM
At 7 I would let him decide the righ thing to do. Let him make mistakes. He will learn from them. My 7 year old yells when he is tired to I know when he chooses to yell I choose an early bed time for him. Pick your battles. HTh cristi

John

Posts:4

12/14/2007 7:44 PM
I have found out that we are going to get a new site for dads!!stldads.com It's about time someone got this going.

Pam

Posts:35

01/13/2008 12:39 AM
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daven

Posts:3

02/25/2008 9:47 PM
I recomend the book 123 MAGIC! We have used it for my older son in the past, but no longer need it. IT IS WONDERFUL!!!

Tara

Posts:3

08/22/2008 11:20 PM
I have a 3 year old who I am having the most difficult time handling. I am so stressed from the yelling and fighting with her. She is mean to other kids (I babysit) she talks back BAD. She tells me no, I don't know, sorry I'm gonna do....! It is overwhelming. I try timeouts, I try spanking, I try ignoring, I try mocking, I try yelling, Bed, you name it I have tried! Please someone help! I am losing my mind, I also have a 4 month old and a 6 1/2 year old! My other kids are suffering from their sisters lack of listening!

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